Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Fuck you Giuliana Depandi


I was reading this post over at Feministe which mentions Giuliana Depandi's book Think Like a Guy: How to Get a Guy by Thinking Like One, which should have been called Think Like a Misogynist: How to Write a Book That Compares Dating Women with Killing and Cutting Up Animals. In the intro offered for free on Amazon.com she tells the reader that men really want women that play hard to get and offers this metaphor:

“If a deer hunter lands his prey within the first five minutes he’s in the woods, he’ll experience an immediate sense of excitement…but the joy will wear off as quickly as it came, and in no time he’ll move on to his next victim. Therefore, you have to let a guy sweat it out. Imagine this: A hunter enters the woods and after about seven or eight minutes, he spots his prey. He cocks his gun, takes aim, fires--and misses. No big deal. He cocks his gun again…and misses again, and again, again. After several attempts, he starts getting really frustrated. Does that mean he’s gonna pack up and go home? Hell, no! In fact he’s gonna go after…the one that’s a little too sly and ‘evades’ him. ..As he sits against a tree, nearly defeated, he hears a rustle. He … fires his forty-ninth bullet. And with one shot he strikes his prey right in the heart …He treats this particular one with dignity…once he gets home, he cooks up and bites in to the most delicious deer meat he’s ever tasted…he mounts the deer’s head on the wall directly within eyeshot of his desk so he can admire it for years to come.”

So if you want a man who is gonna shoot you, eat you, and then mount your remains on the wall - play hard to get! This is some of the worst misogny I have ever read, the woman is "the victim" and "his prey". "No" doesn't mean no! "No" just means you have to try harder in order to shoot me, do whatever you want with my insides, and make me your trophy.

6 comments:

Quinn said...

That is just... I mean, really. Wow.

Kate said...

Tell me this isn't a real book. Does this author have a website? An email address? I think she needs some mail.

Rachelle said...

Have at it: http://www.giulianadepandi.com/

Megan said...

Furthermore, if the hunter who gets the deer immediately will quickly lose excitement after he has obtained what he was hunting, wouldn't this lead one to believe that the thrill for the "hunter" is in the "hunt" itself and the "prey" is fairly meaningless to him? He only wants what he can't have, and once he has it he doesn't want it any more. Not the analogy I would hope for in a relationship.

crankosaur said...

Is anyone else getting the rape analogy here? "God damn uppity deer, thinks it can run around with that little white tail and not get shot... I'll show it!"

Rachelle said...

Exactamente crankosaur, exactamente.

 
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